Picture (Im)Perfect Family

Nichols Family

I have a great family. I’ve been blessed to be married to my college sweetheart since 1994. I have two fantastic kids and just recently added an equally great son (in-law). My family is definitely my greatest accomplishment. I am so thankful to God that He blessed me to be wife and mother to this great group of people.

All that being said, my family is not perfect, actually we are far from it. We are loud, messy, flaw-filled, chaotic, and complicated.

For instance, my 25 year marriage has had problems. Not just those pesky annoyances like he tracks dirt on my clean floor or he leaves his dirty underwear in the bathroom. No it’s had some really bad days. Such bad days at times that I was ready to quit and so was he. But neither of us did. Instead we decided to stick with it and work together to build a strong friendship and better marriage. Now most of our issues are just those pesky annoyances of dirty floors and underwear.

Another thing I hate to admit is my kids didn’t get the perfect childhood. I’m not talking about not getting the newest toys and best clothes. My kids suffered through a lot of growing pains for my husband and me. Our kids have seen us fuss and argue. I know, I know, that’s awful and you’re not supposed to fight in front of the kids, but we did. Our kids also witnessed us humble ourselves, apologize to each other, and apologize to them.
So yeah, my husband and I messed that up pretty bad. Despite that, our kids observed my husband and I build a new friendship and love for each other, and most important they’ve learned that even though marriage can be hard, it’s worth the effort and it’s a life commitment.

Then there are my kids. I could definitely brag about them, because in my eyes they are the most amazing, talented, and intelligent people. But my kids are more than that. They are flawed as well. While my husband and I are thankful for these two amazing souls we’ve been blessed to love and parent. Parenting them has been not always been easy. No, it’s been hard, because my kids mess up. They’ve made mistakes and have disappointed their dad and me. But, they’ve also taught us things. They’ve taught me humility, shown me forgiveness, and loved me flaws and all.

Do I want to admit that my husband and I don’t have a perfect marriage or that my kids have caused us some disappointments?
No, but I’ve done the whole ‘trying to always look perfect’ thing and I’m done with doing that.
The truth is, my life is messy, my family is messy, and I’m extremely messy. So with all that messiness we certainly don’t make the perfect family.

My marriage isn’t perfect but my husband and I keep trying to make it better everyday and most important we keep God at the center of our lives and marriage.
My kids aren’t perfect, but they both strive to serve others, love others, and love the Lord.
My daughter married an imperfect man, but he is a servant of Christ, loves my daughter, and in my opinion a perfect fit for her.

This family is imperfect because we are just people. But the great thing is we don’t have to be perfect, because Jesus accomplished that for us. He lived the perfect life and gave that life for us so we didn’t have to be perfect.

I’m so thankful for the opportunity God has given me to be a part of this family. I am thankful that God has blessed this family by adding a new member that blends so well with the existing personalities. I am thankful for the foundations that my husband and I both received from our families. Mostly I’m thankful that I can be made perfect through the blood of the only perfect one, Jesus Christ.

‘Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.’ Philippians 3:12-14

he will bless those who fear the Lord,
both the small and the great.
May the Lord give you increase,
you and your children!
May you be blessed by the Lord,
who made heaven and earth! Psalm 115:13-15

Until next time

Lots of love to you and yours

Photo Credit – Cassie Watson Photography

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